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Out Of The Mouths Of Babes

 Rosie, aged 6 years Says

" I'm scared to tell anyone. i've heard what he says to mummy and i'm frightened she wont wake up in the in the morning "

Rosie's Mum says

" When my little girl spoke those words to me i was horrified.To hear such painful emotions  from my child gave me a wake up call, and a feeling of guilt that i was putting my little girl through this abuse  too.

I never thought i would have the courage to leave until those words pierced my heart and soul. I thought i was shielding her by sending her to her room whenever i thought he was about to have yet another violence outburst. I didnt realise that she could hear every time he said he would kill me, every name he called me, every punch he threw rang through the ears of an innocent child. 

Because of Rosie's words i was brave enough to leave, i sought help through EVA Women's Aid, and we moved on.

Thankyou to Rosie my special little girl

Rosie's Mum

Mary

Christmas and birthdays and every excuse,when we got married there was no abuse. Years went by it started so slow the verbal abuse got cruel, you know!

We had two children one after the other, my daughter first and then her brother. He started on drugs,cannabis at first but then came the hard stuff that was the worst.

When he was high he was loving and caring ,when he was down it was over bearing .

The beatings started and out of his face he would tell me he's sorry  and i'd get back in the rat-race .

The kids were young and they loved their dad ,they never could know what a life i had. He told me i'm useless and ugly and fat, he threw his dinner at me just where i sat.

I'm six months pregnant and fear for my baby, my friends say get out he'll kill you young lady. Who would have me with three kids in tow that's what he'd say and he's right you know ! December came but the baby's not due my waters broke as i sat on the loo.

 I called for his help but  he slept off his craving, from last night's party and the raving . He woke from his sleep an angry state his face was raging his manner irate. He dragged me up and i felt a tug the baby was there on the bathroom rug. what do i do i'm screaming in fits my daughter walked in and she was in bits. He called for an ambulance and the paramedics came, they couldn't save my baby, did she die in vain?

Now this time he took things too far, my friend came to the ward and we piled into her car.I'll never look back and regret what i did he caused me distress ,i lost my kid !!

 Life hasn't been easy starting again, but now we are living free from that pain !!

Mary

Sandra Says ...

 "There is light at the end of the tunnel ....just be strong, believe in yourself because you can do it "  

" Never give up !always remember why you gone  this far so why give up now? " it will be worth it .

Sandra would like to share the website she turns to for a little inspiration in times of doubt.

www.forevertears.com/peace&serenity 

Poem From Member

Times were hard and the violence plenty,the housekeeping jar was always empty.

Work was scarce and the pub always open,a few  hours later my nose was broken.

It went on for years and i thought i could take it,but his rages got worse i nearly didn't make it.

That last time was bad his anger was like thunder,i woke up in ICU after been nearly six feet under.

My kids were a wreck and in temporary care,the house was a mess but we just had nowhere.

I contacted SODA once i'd moved on ,the kids are ok now that tirrant has gone.

We now have a home and money to cope,our future looks good,i now have hope.

Life is much sweeter now and i try if i can, to forget all the torture i endured from that man.

Anon